How to Create a Powerful, Achievable New Year's Resolution
It’s the end of 2008 and no matter how wonderful or awful it was I encourage you to open your heart and embrace the opportunity for great change for 2009 and beyond.
The tradition of creating resolutions for the New Year can be a daunting task. We want to do better, look better, feel better, be better. But the process of deciding what we are resolved to do can actually have a negative effect, which undermines the point of making a resolution in the first place.
Allow me to elaborate; if you reflect on the past year in a way that emphasizes all of those tasks and goals that did not get accomplished, you are setting yourself up to fail in those same tasks and goals for the new year. Brow-beating yourself for what didn’t happen creates a negative vibration which etches the negative emotions and disappointments in to every cell of your body.
It’s no wonder so many people get depressed over creating their New Year’s Resolutions.
How are You Feeling Today?
On the simplest level, the Law of Attraction is dictated by the Law of Vibration. What you think about creates feelings in your body, literally on a cellular level. The higher, more positive thoughts create a higher more positive vibration. Therefore, since like-attracts-like, the higher your vibration the more positive experiences and people you will attract. Conversely, the lower more negative thoughts create a lower, negative vibration. This either keeps you stuck where you are or worse, attracts negative people and circumstances your way.
What should you do now? How can you even begin to create new resolutions without thinking about what hasn’t already happened in a negative way?
Unfortunately, just writing down what we want to have happen or thinking ‘happy’ thoughts isn’t quite enough to create positive and permanent change. You must become emotionally involved with the commitment of what better is for you. Not what someone else thinks it should be for you, but what it would genuinely mean to you.
:WARNING:
Continue reading, only if you are serious about making a significant positive change for yourself. This takes a little courage, some thought, about 30 minutes and the ability to love yourself (or at least a genuine desire to want to love yourself).
Grab your journal or a notebook, find a comfortable private spot and give yourself the gift of yourself.
1) Forget about the New Year for a moment. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and think about one (or 10!) great thing(s) you did accomplish this past year. Write it down!
2) Close your eyes again, take a deep breath and think of one small thing you accomplished yesterday. Write it down!
3) This time visualize someone in your life that loves you and imagine them telling you why they love you. Write it down! (do not skip this one)
4) Now visualize someone that you admire and/or love (anyone – alive or not) and imagine yourself telling them why you admire them. Write it down!
5) Take another deep, cleansing breath and read aloud what you just wrote from steps 3 & 4 using your own name (even if you don’t believe it-yet).
6) Close your eyes and see yourself in your mind’s mirror as the loved and admired person you just declared yourself to be (even if it’s just for a moment).
7) Fast forward to this time next year as the loved and admired person you are. What was your greatest accomplishment for the year? Who has acknowledged you for this accomplishment?
Now that’s a Goal worth Achieving. Write it down!
This is your New Year’s Resolution!
Embrace the Next Highest Version of You
If you find it difficult to acknowledge yourself in this way, I invite you to consider the fact that any time you recognize or admire greatness in another it is because you have the seed or even the roots of that same greatness in yourself.
You would not be capable of envisioning an exciting goal for yourself if you didn’t already posses the ability and fortitude to make it a reality.
This exercise works because it aligns you with the truth that you already do accomplish many wonderful things every day of every year – great and small. When you allow yourself to celebrate the small along with the great you begin to associate with the positive returns in life.
When you go to bed at night and thank yourself for all that you did this day, you will wake eager to do more the next. If you go to bed worried about all the things that did not get done and are waiting for you tomorrow, you will toss and turn and begin the new day full of dread and anxiety. You choose.
When your goal or resolution is exciting enough to pull you out of your comfort zone then you will find positive changes begin to take place in all the other areas of your life as well.
One great goal is far more powerful than 5 mediocre resolutions. With mediocre resolutions we can’t stay committed. If we blow one, we throw them all out together, (if we can even remember what they all were in the first place).
I promise, if you will take 30 minutes to complete this whole exercise and then read it over once every day, you can change the entire course of your next year from mediocre to GREAT.
Now, if you find yourself wondering how to accomplish or even begin this next phase of your life, I urge you to contact a qualified Life Coach. A good coach can be an invaluable thinking-partner to help you unleash the rich creative genius that you are ready to express!
Give yourself the gift of your own true potential to become the Next Highest Version of You!
Many Blessings for a Happy & Prosperous New Year!
Schelli Whitehouse / Professional & Life Coach
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Friday, December 19, 2008
Thursday, April 3, 2008
What is The Passion Test?
Here's a test that No One Ever Fails!
With this test you can get as many do-overs as you want. The first time I took The Passion Test I was surprised at how ambitious my dreams actually are. As I reviewed the card I created for myself, I thought, Geez, I'd better get busy!
I also really came to appreciate how much I appreciate exactly where I am today. I'm grateful that I have passions. Maybe too many!
Although, many of the items on my list were not true passions, just likes. Likes are good, though they are easily swept aside. Then there are the shoulds. Items I put on my list because I thought they should be there. I mean, what kind of person am I if I don't have World Peace listed as one of my passions? Most definitely not a contender for the Miss (Mrs.) America pageant.
The Passion Test created by Janet Bray Attwood, is a wonderful tool for helping you to discover the clarity you need to begin making your dreams your reality.
What dreams have you talked yourself out of?
I used to believe that if I followed my passion that I would have to neglect my family and leave them to fend for themselves. As passionate as I am about my family it wasn't long before the act of denying my own creative self-expression took a physical and mental toll on me.
Many of us actually feel guilty for wanting to Have, Be or Do more with our lives. We live in a remarkable country and a remarkable era that allows us to even consider the fact that we are free to follow our hearts and imaginations to become the brilliant manifestation of our souls true desire.
So many of the world's people, (especially women) have no personal freedom to express themselves beyond the identities handed to them by their societies and environmental conditions.
The mere fact that you are reading this means that you are already blessed with wealth and abundance greater than 95% of the world's population.
Sorry, I digress. My point is that we live in a time that offers us more choices and more opportunities to live a life full of growth and self-discovery. Your passions evolve in direct relationship to your needs.
Our dreams and goals are how we handle what is right in front of us with fulfillment and satisfaction. We begin with the basics. If you are hungry, you need food. Getting food becomes an all-consuming passion. If you are lonely, you become passionate about finding companionship and love. Once our most basic needs are met, our souls begin to yearn for other forms of self-expression and accomplishment.
Though, I am not a clinical psychotherapist, it is becoming more and more obvious to me that the majority of depressed people in our society are seeking medication in order to deaden themselves to the fact that they are continually denying themselves the opportunities to discover or actually follow their true passion.
I believe you can begin to live your life with true heartfelt passion, right now, today. But first you must give yourself permission.
There is nothing to fear and nothing to feel guilty about. In order to create change in our lives, we must first change ourselves.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves,
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." ~ Marianne Williamson~
What would you do for hours or for free, just because you love it?
The Passion Test is an easy way to help you to identify and prioritize you passions in life, those activities that you are willing to leap out of bed for early in the morning or stay up late and continue after the world has fallen asleep. These are your dreams, you desires that breath life into your soul.
You might be surprised by what shows up for you. It's the first step to creating the life you truly desire. I highly recommend this simple test to absolutely everyone.
You can take it here for Free... Take The Passion Test Now!
With this test you can get as many do-overs as you want. The first time I took The Passion Test I was surprised at how ambitious my dreams actually are. As I reviewed the card I created for myself, I thought, Geez, I'd better get busy!
I also really came to appreciate how much I appreciate exactly where I am today. I'm grateful that I have passions. Maybe too many!
Although, many of the items on my list were not true passions, just likes. Likes are good, though they are easily swept aside. Then there are the shoulds. Items I put on my list because I thought they should be there. I mean, what kind of person am I if I don't have World Peace listed as one of my passions? Most definitely not a contender for the Miss (Mrs.) America pageant.
The Passion Test created by Janet Bray Attwood, is a wonderful tool for helping you to discover the clarity you need to begin making your dreams your reality.
What dreams have you talked yourself out of?
I used to believe that if I followed my passion that I would have to neglect my family and leave them to fend for themselves. As passionate as I am about my family it wasn't long before the act of denying my own creative self-expression took a physical and mental toll on me.
Many of us actually feel guilty for wanting to Have, Be or Do more with our lives. We live in a remarkable country and a remarkable era that allows us to even consider the fact that we are free to follow our hearts and imaginations to become the brilliant manifestation of our souls true desire.
So many of the world's people, (especially women) have no personal freedom to express themselves beyond the identities handed to them by their societies and environmental conditions.
The mere fact that you are reading this means that you are already blessed with wealth and abundance greater than 95% of the world's population.
Sorry, I digress. My point is that we live in a time that offers us more choices and more opportunities to live a life full of growth and self-discovery. Your passions evolve in direct relationship to your needs.
Our dreams and goals are how we handle what is right in front of us with fulfillment and satisfaction. We begin with the basics. If you are hungry, you need food. Getting food becomes an all-consuming passion. If you are lonely, you become passionate about finding companionship and love. Once our most basic needs are met, our souls begin to yearn for other forms of self-expression and accomplishment.
Though, I am not a clinical psychotherapist, it is becoming more and more obvious to me that the majority of depressed people in our society are seeking medication in order to deaden themselves to the fact that they are continually denying themselves the opportunities to discover or actually follow their true passion.
I believe you can begin to live your life with true heartfelt passion, right now, today. But first you must give yourself permission.
There is nothing to fear and nothing to feel guilty about. In order to create change in our lives, we must first change ourselves.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves,
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." ~ Marianne Williamson~
What would you do for hours or for free, just because you love it?
The Passion Test is an easy way to help you to identify and prioritize you passions in life, those activities that you are willing to leap out of bed for early in the morning or stay up late and continue after the world has fallen asleep. These are your dreams, you desires that breath life into your soul.
You might be surprised by what shows up for you. It's the first step to creating the life you truly desire. I highly recommend this simple test to absolutely everyone.
You can take it here for Free... Take The Passion Test Now!
Monday, January 21, 2008
Can You Be Grateful for What You Have Not Got?
The title of this lesson can be a real sticking point for a lot of people.
“Can You Be Thankful for What You Have Not Got?”
Before we address that, let's assume that you presently have a goal or vision for yourself that doesn't presently exist. For Instance...
How can you be thankful for that great relationship, the extra $1000.00 in the bank or for weighing in at your target weight if your experience is anything but those things?
When someone pays you a compliment, buys you a gift or simply holds a door open for you – your response is 'Thank You'. It's an immediate response to an act of generosity. Everyone understands this.
Now think of a time you confided your relationship woes to a friend, he/she doesn't understand me, we just aren't connecting, he/she never listens, I don't know how to get his/her attention, etc., etc.
You have not only confided your woes to a friend but you have affirmed to the Universe (God) that your relationship is miserable.
Now what happens?
You get more of what you affirm for yourself.
Once you ask God for help (with anything) you must stop focusing on any negative aspect of the situation.
Connect to your Infinite Source of Power – the Creative Juices of the Universe then ASK for what you desire and prepare to RECEIVE by relating yourself to Your Source (God) with deep and profound gratitude.
So how can you be grateful for something you have not got?
EXAMPLE:
Let's say you were in between jobs and before you are able to start the new job you are short on funds and unable to pay your heating bill. It's the middle of winter and you've received a notice that your heat will be turned off if full payment isn't received in 3 days time.
First you may panic and sling a few choice expletives around the room. Next, you would take action and call a friend or relative that you could beg or borrow enough money from in order to pay your heating bill.
For the sake of this lesson, let's say that your friend says, “Sure, I'll bring you a check the day after tomorrow.” You gush with gratitude, promise to pay your friend back and breathe a sigh of relief.
Then you forget about that problem because it has been solved.
When you hang up the phone with your friend you are filled with gratitude for the assistance they have offered, correct?
However, you do not have that money in your possession. Yet you are already grateful for it.
It is coming, but you have not got it.
This is exactly the way you need to establish your relationship with Your Infinite Source of Power. Your relationship with God (Universal Intelligence, etc..) is exactly the same.
Once you ASK for help you should gush with gratitude, for what you have requested is most definitely on it's way. Then stop worrying about what you have not got.
I'm sure you are familiar with the Law of Cause and Effect. For every Action there is always and equal and opposite ReAction. Therefore, your grateful outreaching to God (Your Source) creates an instantaneous reaction from God (Your Source) to YOU.
You are now responsible for receiving that which you have requested. Do not limit the manner in which it is to be delivered. Let the Universe handle those details.
That doesn't mean you should just sit on the couch watching TV and wait for those extra pounds to just melt away in between the sofa cushions. There's a little bit of creative teamwork involved here.
EXERCISE:
Tonight, before you go to bed, list as many things as you can think of that you are grateful for.
Write anything and everything that you are happy with today in your life or have ever been grateful for.
Write this sentence at the top of your page:
I AM SO HAPPY AND GRATEFUL...
for chocolate ice cream
how much my dog loves me
for comedy
to have a movie date with my husband
for the guidance and perseverance to complete this course
etc., ect., You get the picture.
Keep writing until you can't think of even one more thing – then go to sleep. Do not watch the news or read anything negative from this point on. You are to go to sleep with a grateful heart.
Gratitude keeps you in close touch with your divine Source of Power. The closer you are to God the Source, the more you will receive the more you will be grateful, the more you will have to give.
-edited from the E-Course created by Schelli Whitehouse,
7-Weeks to Living The Certain Way
“Can You Be Thankful for What You Have Not Got?”
Before we address that, let's assume that you presently have a goal or vision for yourself that doesn't presently exist. For Instance...
How can you be thankful for that great relationship, the extra $1000.00 in the bank or for weighing in at your target weight if your experience is anything but those things?
When someone pays you a compliment, buys you a gift or simply holds a door open for you – your response is 'Thank You'. It's an immediate response to an act of generosity. Everyone understands this.
Now think of a time you confided your relationship woes to a friend, he/she doesn't understand me, we just aren't connecting, he/she never listens, I don't know how to get his/her attention, etc., etc.
You have not only confided your woes to a friend but you have affirmed to the Universe (God) that your relationship is miserable.
Now what happens?
You get more of what you affirm for yourself.
Once you ask God for help (with anything) you must stop focusing on any negative aspect of the situation.
Connect to your Infinite Source of Power – the Creative Juices of the Universe then ASK for what you desire and prepare to RECEIVE by relating yourself to Your Source (God) with deep and profound gratitude.
So how can you be grateful for something you have not got?
EXAMPLE:
Let's say you were in between jobs and before you are able to start the new job you are short on funds and unable to pay your heating bill. It's the middle of winter and you've received a notice that your heat will be turned off if full payment isn't received in 3 days time.
First you may panic and sling a few choice expletives around the room. Next, you would take action and call a friend or relative that you could beg or borrow enough money from in order to pay your heating bill.
For the sake of this lesson, let's say that your friend says, “Sure, I'll bring you a check the day after tomorrow.” You gush with gratitude, promise to pay your friend back and breathe a sigh of relief.
Then you forget about that problem because it has been solved.
When you hang up the phone with your friend you are filled with gratitude for the assistance they have offered, correct?
However, you do not have that money in your possession. Yet you are already grateful for it.
It is coming, but you have not got it.
This is exactly the way you need to establish your relationship with Your Infinite Source of Power. Your relationship with God (Universal Intelligence, etc..) is exactly the same.
Once you ASK for help you should gush with gratitude, for what you have requested is most definitely on it's way. Then stop worrying about what you have not got.
I'm sure you are familiar with the Law of Cause and Effect. For every Action there is always and equal and opposite ReAction. Therefore, your grateful outreaching to God (Your Source) creates an instantaneous reaction from God (Your Source) to YOU.
You are now responsible for receiving that which you have requested. Do not limit the manner in which it is to be delivered. Let the Universe handle those details.
That doesn't mean you should just sit on the couch watching TV and wait for those extra pounds to just melt away in between the sofa cushions. There's a little bit of creative teamwork involved here.
EXERCISE:
Tonight, before you go to bed, list as many things as you can think of that you are grateful for.
Write anything and everything that you are happy with today in your life or have ever been grateful for.
Write this sentence at the top of your page:
I AM SO HAPPY AND GRATEFUL...
for chocolate ice cream
how much my dog loves me
for comedy
to have a movie date with my husband
for the guidance and perseverance to complete this course
etc., ect., You get the picture.
Keep writing until you can't think of even one more thing – then go to sleep. Do not watch the news or read anything negative from this point on. You are to go to sleep with a grateful heart.
Gratitude keeps you in close touch with your divine Source of Power. The closer you are to God the Source, the more you will receive the more you will be grateful, the more you will have to give.
-edited from the E-Course created by Schelli Whitehouse,
7-Weeks to Living The Certain Way
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